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Why ”Putting Yourself First” is Not Selfish

October 3, 2014

For years we’ve been told that we should put the needs of everyone else before our own. We hear that message everywhere. I have struggled with the feeling of selfishness whenever I do something for myself.

I recently read an article in the ” Best for Women” magazine published by Soroptimist Intl, that changed my viewpoint on this subject. In the article, Patricia Donoghue uses the example of the oxygen masks on an airline. We’re told to put on our own masks first, then help those around us. Why do the airlines tell us this? Because we can’t help anyone else if we’re suffocating!

What we’ve lost over the years is a sense of self. We’ve become so fixated on helping others that we’ve let ourselves wither away. How can we help others if we’re not taking care of ourselves? What good are we to others if we are stressed beyond our limits, or fall ill because we’ve pushed ourselves way to hard?

This doesn’t mean that we should not do for others. I’m saying the exact opposite. We need to keep ourselves healthy and stress free, so that we CAN do for others! We need to learn that saying ”no” is sometimes a healthy response.

Finding the balance is the difficult part. That balance is different for different people, including me. Every day, I struggle to figure it out.  There’s no magic formula, no single correct way to do it. What I DO know is that you have to take care of yourself first, and then you’ll be healthy enough to help others around you!

20 Tips to Relieve Stress Quickly

October 1, 2014

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Need to relieve stress quickly? Try these 20 tips to decompress…


  1. Take deep breaths. Breathe deeply from within your diaphragm 10 times, letting out each breath slowly.
  2. Light candles, day dream, relax your muscles.
  3. Take some “me” time. Whether it’s a few minutes each day or an hour a week, take time for YOU to relax, refresh and rejuvenate.
  4. Laugh more! Share your laughter with a few of your best friends when you host a relaxing Spa with your BeautiControl Independent Consultant.
  5. Detox your mind and your body with a BC Spa Detox Detoxifying Bath Soak.
  6. Meditate. No need to go on a retreat to a Spa – five minutes of peace is all it takes to reap the benefits of meditation.
  7. Refresh your tired eyes in as little as 5 minutes with Skinlogics® Refreshing Eye Pads. Lean back, relax and soothe your tired eyes. Tip: refrigerate them for an extra burst of freshness.
  8. Stay organized. Keep a daily schedule, clean out your garage, rearrange your closet, throw away old papers from your office. De-cluttering can really help to distress and prevent future headaches.
  9. Treat yourself to a quick manicure and hand massage with BC Spa Manicure.
  10. Drip cold water on your wrists. When stress hits, dropping a little cold water on your wrists and behind your earlobes can help to cool the major arteries right under the skin and can help calm your whole body.
  11. Start off each morning with a pep talk. Practice saying something like, “I am valuable; I deserve to take care of myself; I will achieve my goals for today; I am beautiful inside and out.”
  12. Keep a good book handy. Waiting in a long line? There’s no better way to make a line feel short than by reading your favorite author.
  13. Start a new hobby. Engaging in a creative activity — learning a new instrument, painting, singing, taking a craft class — can reduce tension and anxiety.
  14. Escape on a journey to ultimate tranquility with one mist of Tierra Azul Calming Fragrance. Your mind will come to ease with the soothing aromas of anise, white cinnamon, black currant blossom and vanilla. An infusion of nourishing botanicals with moisturizing complex leaves skin with a light, evolving scent that keeps you feeling indulged no matter where you are.
  15. Sip Green Tea. Green tea is a great source of L-Theanine, a chemical that helps relieve anger according to
  16. Add some spring to your step with a relaxing pedicure. Rub your feet over a golf ball for a quick and easy foot massage. Follow with BC Spa Pedicure Cooling Foot Salve to help revitalize tired, achy feet.
  17. Keep your body working efficiently. Drink plenty of water, limit your alcohol intake and stay away from smoking.
  18. Find the sun. If it’s a sunny day, go outside for some quick stress relief.
  19. Rejuvenate your senses with a scientific blend of natural ingredients and aromatherapeutic essential oils. Spray BC Spa Detox Refreshing Mist on your face or body for instant refreshment.
  20. Contact your BeautiControl Independent Consultant to schedule a complimentary Spa with your friends in the comfort of your own home! You’ll enjoy one hour of total relaxation with treatments that leave your skin looking flawless, your body feeling rejuvenated and your mind feeling de-stressed. Don’t forget to ask her about our famous Spa Neck Wraps!

Are you adding years to your face with any of these beauty blunders?

September 29, 2014

Reblogged from BeautiControl:

Adding years to your face

  1. Foundation that’s too light – If you use a foundation shade that’s paler than your skin tone it will exaggerate your fine lines and wrinkles. Contact your Independent Consultant to help match your skin tone perfectly with liquid or wet/dry foundation.
  2. Too much concealer on dark circles – Our skin under our eyes gets thinner and thinner each year as we age which can make thick concealer look like paste. Keep your concealer light and airy by applying with a brush to distribute the color more evenly. Be sure to only apply to the dark circles, not your entire under eye.
  3. Incorrect blush placement – Applying blush to the just the apples of your cheeks can draw attention to sagging skin. Instead, you should always apply blush to the highest point on your cheekbones, swirling up and out with a circular motion toward the top of your ear.
  4. Not using lip liner – As we age, our natural lip line can begin to fade. This can cause our lipstick to bleed and feather out. Avoid this by using a primer with a lip liner. First, apply a shadow or face primer and let dry. Then, apply lip pencil by drawing a line at the bottom of the lower lip. Then using light, feathery strokes, work your way down from each corner to connect the line. Do the top lip in the same way: adding a line in the center, then joining it with lines from each corner.

What’s Hiding in Your Toothbrush?

July 15, 2014

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Have you ever wondered if your toothbrush was really clean? Unless you pulled it out of a sealed package today, you could be putting some of the most harmful bacteria and other microscopic organisms right into your mouth! Here are a list of things that might be in your toothbrush right now:

  • Bacteria – There is possibly more bacteria in your mouth than anywhere else on your body. When this bacteria is removed by your toothbrush and toothpaste, it can then live on your toothbrush for a long, long time.
  • Fecal matter & urine – Yuck! But it’s true. When a toilet is flushed, water (and other) particles are launched up to 8 feet in every direction. Fecal matter and urine can also be on your hands, and easily transferred to your toothbrush.
  • Hair products – If you’re styling your hair in the bathroom and using any sprays at all, they can land on your toothbrush. Particles can also be blown from your hair while blow-drying your hair.
  • Cold & flu virus – Even if you’re not sick YET, virus particles can travel on your hands and other parts of your body before infecting you. Imagine if your family member was sick and you touched something THEY touched, then you happened to touch your toothbrush before you washed your hands. Now the virus is living in your toothbrush!
  • Other harmful & harmless germs – There are many airborne germs that can land on your toothbrush even if you’re not keeping in out in the open!

So now that you’re thoroughly grossed out, I bet you’re wondering how to keep your toothbrush clean. Here are a few different ways to clean your toothbrush.

  • Clean with peroxide – Pour hydrogen peroxide in a glass and leave the head of your toothbrush in it for about 5 minutes. Then rinse thoroughly with water and store to dry.
  • Ultraviolet (UV) light – Unfortunately, most of us don’t have an ultraviolet let sitting around, so you’ll have to buy one at the store and follow the directions supplied by the manufacturer.
  • Effervescent disinfecting tablets – There are some companies that make tablets specifically designed to clean your toothbrush. But there’s no evidence to support whether or not these clean better than peroxide. Again, follow the directions supplied by the manufacturer.

Have you heard of any other ways to keep your toothbrush clean? Feel free to leave it in the comments before you go!

The 5 Basic Styles Of Tea

July 10, 2014

I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE tea! Here’s a great explanation about the types of tea and where they come from. Great to know!

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All tea leaves come from the same basic plant, the Camellia Sinensis plant commonly known as the tea plant. It is  native to Asia, but is currently cultivated around the world. It has over 3,000 varieties. The five basic styles of tea are White, Green, Oolong, Black and Pu’erh and the differences between teas arise from processing, growing conditions, and geography. The styles are produced by altering the shape and chemistry of the leaf, rather unromantically called ‘processing’ or ‘manufacture.’


Tea processing is in five basic steps; some teas don’t utilize all of these steps, while other teas repeat them several times.
Plucking: This is when it is picked from the plant and weighted.

Withering: This is a process of allowing the leaves to wilt and soften. This is achieved by spreading the leaves on vast trays or racks, and left to wither in air temperatures of 25-30°…

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Summertime Cheesy Black Bean & Corn Dip Recipe

July 7, 2014

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Summer is a great time to gather with family and friends, and who wants to spend a lot of time in the kitchen? Not ME! I’d like to share this great Cheesy Black Bean & Corn Dip recipe that I made last weekend. I also have a Creamy Fall-Winter version of it that I’ll share when the hot summer days are gone.  Want to make a fat-free version? Leave the cheese out, or use fat-free cheese!

Cheesy Black Bean & Corn Dip

Yield: 8-10 servings

Prep Time: 10 minutes

Cook Time: None!


2 {14-16 ounce} cans of Corn, drained
1 {14-16 ounce} can Black Beans, drained and rinsed
1 Red Bell Pepper, chopped
3 Green Onions (or scallions), chopped
12 ounces Colby Jack, grated
3 tbsp Lime juice (add more to taste)
1/4 Cup Cilantro, chopped
Salt to taste
Corn or Tortilla Chips for dipping!

If you like it spicy, add 1 {4 ounce} can of green chilis or jalapenos, chopped


Combine all of the ingredients in a bowl. Stir until combined and season with salt to taste. Add more lime juice to taste.

Put the dip in the refrigerator for an hour for all of the tastes to combine, then serve with chips and enjoy!


Guide: The 31 Healthiest Foods of All Time (with Recipes)

June 16, 2014

There are some amazing foods on this list, like Kale. Most of these are in our family’s regular diet, but I’ll be sure to add the ones we’re missing!

There are some amazing foods on this list, like Kale. Most of these are in our family’s regular diet, but I’ll be sure to add the ones we’re missing!

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